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Are You In An Abusive and Potentially Violent Relationship?Answering the following questions will help the person already in a relationship in determining if it is abusive or becoming abusive…DOES YOUR PARTNER…____ embarrass you in front of others?____ belittle your accomplishments?____ make you feel unworthy?____ constantly contradict himself to confuse you?____ do things for which you are constantly making excuses to others or yourself?____ isolate you from many of the people you care most about?____ make you feel ashamed much of the time?____ make you believe he/she is smarter than you and, therefore, more able to make decisions?____ make you feel that it is you who is crazy?____ make you perform acts that demean you?____ use intimidation to make you do what he/she wants?____ prevent you from going or doing commonplace activities such as shopping, visiting friends and family, talking to the opposite sex?____ control the financial aspects of your life?____ use money as a way of controlling you?____ make believe you can not exist without him/her?____ make you feel that there is no way out and that “you made your bed and must lie in it”?____ make you find ways of compromising your feelings for the sake of peace?____ treat you roughly – grabbing, pinching, pushing or shoving you?____ threaten you – verbally or with a weapon?____ hold you to keep you from leaving after an argument?____ lose control when he/she is drunk or using drugs?____ gets extremely angry, frequently without an apparent cause?____ escalate his/her anger into violence – slapping, kicking, etc.?____ not believe that he/she hurt you nor feel sorry for what he/she has done?____ physically forced you to do what you do not want to do?DO YOU….____ believe that you can help your partner change the abusive behavior if you were only to change yourself in some way, if you only did some thing differently, if you really loved him/her?____ find that not making him/her angry has become a major part of your life?____ do what he/she wants you to do rather than what you want to do out of fear?____ stay with him/her only because you’re afraid he/she might hurt you if you tell?If you said yes to many of the above questions, you have identified an abusive relationship and need to seek help and advice. Call the Ohio Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 934-9840. |
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