Tag Archives: healing

To Recognize, To Respond

This past week a young family with children moved into a neighboring empty farm house.  I stopped by twice to introduce myself and see how they were doing.  Each time the husband, a former U.S. airman, told me “THANK YOU for welcoming us!  Thank you for telling the other neighbors we are here. We’ve never had anyone care before.” His response gave me pause – for two reasons.  First, of course, that no one had ever bothered to recognize and acknowledge that something / someone new was happening in their neighborhood.  The second was that …

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It’s Killing Me Slowly, But Joy Comes in the Morning

I’ve been engaged in the Rediscovering Catholicism conversations with parishioners and I’ve recently read the book, “Growing an Engaged Church – How to Stop “Doing Church” and Start BEING the Church Again” by Albert L. Winseman.  It has been a fascinating journey to rediscover and stoke the passions deep within me to seek a deeper relationship with the Lord.  The installation of Pope Francis has opened eyes and renewed hope for what the Church can be -servants to the least of our brothers and sisters.   Yet, in the midst of it all, the unveiling …

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Pick Up Our Mats and Walk!

It seems to me that the best way as engaged Catholics to evangelize those who have disengaged is to be honest, authentic, and constructive. Matthew Kelly speaks of this in the Introduction of his book, Rediscover Catholicism. He addresses the issue of anger and frustration that people feel in general, but especially the anger toward abuse of children and toward cover-up of abuse of children. He says:  I suppose the question we should consider together is: What will we do with our  frustration and our anger?…It seems the people have just stopped thinking about it. They have …

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Healing Our Soul

Everyone in our nation has been stunned by the mass murders of small children and the school staff at Sandy Hook Elementary in Connecticut. We want answers, we want solutions. Some of our searching will focus on gun laws, some on mental illness and our health care system. We will likely see quite a lot of debate and argument about specific issues. I’ve noticed a sense of helplessness among many people, as though this is an intractable problem (or series of problems) that are beyond our ability. I have begun to think that the problem …

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The VIRTUS Reality: Living with the Past

It happened so many years ago, but it still haunts me today.  It has for decades changed the way I relate to the abuser and to the victims.  Why did the victims tell me?  It really wasn’t a question.  I knew the answer.  I’ve always been good at standing up for myself and for those who have sought my counsel. The victims knew that and I was their refuge.  As the victims recounted their abuse, it cut me to the core and I’ve never recovered.  Somehow, I had become a victim – and I simply …

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