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Wedding Jitters

And these were jitters at an international level. The last weekend in May we celebrated on our farm the marriage of our oldest son Dan to his Japanese wife, Erika.  The two of them, her parents and brother (none of whom speak more than a few words of English), flew in from Tokyo for a few days, and some 70 others then came  to wish the new couple the very best. In the end it was a beautiful celebration, and is our trademark…. different. Not only was it a “homegrown” gala – family and friends …

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US vs Windsor

What exactly was at stake in US v. Windsor?  In this case, the U.S. Supreme Court was asked to decide whether the 1996 Act of Congress known as the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) was constitutional.  Section 3 of DOMA had invoked the traditional concept of marriage and defined it as “a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife.”  Section 3 had also defined “spouse” as “a person of the opposite sex who is a husband or a wife.”  DOMA used the traditional definition of marriage specifically for the purposes of granting or …

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NFP is for Real Men

I recently attended a lecture that discussed just how healthy the practice of natural family planning is for a couple.  The speakers showed the strong correlation between the use of natural birth regulation methods and divorce-proof marriages.  They discussed the benefits of improved communication, improved understanding of a wife’s psychology as it relates to her body, the deepening sense of respect men develop for their wives, and the value of mutually delayed gratification.  All in all, I thought it was a pretty compelling case. I almost fell out of my chair later that day when …

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Trapped…Finding a Voice for Marriage

If you ventured into the world of Facebook at the end of March, you likely found yourself in a war zone.    Instead of profile pictures of faces, there was a sea of red equal signs and plus signs.  Nearly every status included an opinion on what marriage is or should be.  Angry comments were left on nearly every status.  Slogans were repeated.  Memes and graphics were used to defend a point.  Early on March 26, I found myself in the middle of the non-virtual war zone.  I was standing in the street in Washington, …

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Weddings Are A Day; Marriages Are For Life.

There are scads of television shows related to weddings. In most of them, it would appear that the groom is little more than accessory—someone to provide an accent to the bride, who is the star of the show. God certainly doesn’t seem to play much of a role in these affairs. When I watch these shows I wonder how long the actual marriages last. If the entire focus is on creating one perfect day, how much attention is being given to the days, weeks, months and years that follow?  I wonder if these young couples …

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I’m Still Wolverine

We play dress ups a lot in our house. Just about every day, when I come home from work, I am greeted at the door not with a hug or a “Yay! Daddy’s home!” (though that happens a lot, too!), but with a plastic sword and the words, “I’m going to get you!” My four year old son is dressed in some sort of costume playing the part of the prince, my 2 year old daughter is in some sort of dress playing the part of the princess, and the bad guy just walked into …

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Google Caught You!

So, have you seen those Google search tools yet?  You type in the beginning words of what you are searching for, and Google will automatically fill in the remaining words based on the most popular searches other people have made.  That means that if you type in the words “how to tie,” the great search engine will spark forth the continuation of your phrase with “…a tie.”  This because when the majority of people have typed “how to tie,” in the past, Google recalls that what they were really looking for was “how to tie …

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Somebody Hellllp Meeeeee!

Late last week, I was working at the computer desk in my bedroom when out from the kitchen, I heard the sound of my daughter crying out in desperation. My heart panicked as I made out her words, “Please, somebody, please help meeeee!” Just like any other father of a four-year-old would do, I rushed out to her side to try to save her from whatever tragedy had arisen. Somewhat to my dismay, she was sitting calmly under the kitchen table, unharmed, playing with a couple of toy cars. It is not what you think. …

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Saving An Endangered Species

In today’s world, I am nearly a statistical non-entity.  It’s not that I’ve done anything all that extraordinary or impossible.  I haven’t set a world record, achieved the highest SAT score, or discovered a life-changing cure. Rather, when I married this summer, I had not cohabited with my fiancé, had enjoyed a chaste dating and engagement time, and now, in marriage, am not using contraception. The three C’s – chastity, cohabitation, contraception.  The first we assume is a dinosaur of age’s past, and the second two we assume are the proud actions of everyone.  I …

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The Wedding Reading That Isn’t

One of the aspects of the priesthood that I enjoy most is wedding preparation. Not all preparations are alike and certainly couples seeking to be married in the Church today are all over the board in terms of their religious education and practice of the faith. But something that unites many of them is the Scripture readings they choose for their wedding.   Of all the potential readings, the one chosen most often for the New Testament reading is from St. Paul to Corinthians (1 Cor 12:31–13:8). You know the one . . . “Love is …

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